Why Are Children Stressed Today?
Think about all the stressors that can cause anxiety in a typical adult’s day: Noise (electronic stimulation from TVs, computers, cell phones, and other constant information-emitting devices); traffic; juggling work responsibilities, multiple activities, and family plans. We are a busy, 24-7 society. For kids, school and after-school activities, the pressure to succeed (whether it comes from outside or from within themselves), family changes or conflicts, and a host of other factors that can lead to anxiety and you have the perfect recipe for child stress.
Signs of Stress in Children
Often, children—particularly younger kids—are not able to fully articulate their feelings of stress and anxiety. If there have been any major changes in a child’s life, such as a move or a new sibling, parents should pay particular attention and look for possible signs of childhood stress. Even if you can’t pinpoint a particular stress factor, your child may experience stress from something at school or other sources you are not aware of.
Stomach painsHeadachesChanges in behaviorMood swingsSleep problemsDifficulty concentrating at schoolIrritabilityDisruptions in relationshipsDecreased academic performanceLow motivation
Keep track of their behavior and moods and watch for any signs of problems. Ask teachers how your child is doing at school and observe how they are interacting with friends and family members.
What Parents Can Do About Child Stress
It’s worth talking to your child about what they may be feeling, even though they may not be able to articulate it in “grown-up” terms. Stick to questions about what they might be worried about or things that might not be making them feel good. Generally, younger children do not fully understand the concept of words such as stress and anxiety.
Let Kids Know They Can Talk to You
Encourage your child to talk to you about any problems they may be having, and to talk about their feelings openly and honestly. One of the most important and effective ways human beings can deal with stress is by talking to someone about their problem. Even if your child is unable to specifically express what they are upset about, just having you ask and encouraging them to talk can make a difference.
Listen to Your Child Before Offering Suggestions
As much as you might want to jump in and help offer solutions, allow them time to fully express their thoughts and emotions before making comments or expressing your opinions.
Consider Doing an Activity While You Talk
Some children may feel more comfortable talking about their problems while engaging in an activity with a parent. Do something you both enjoy, such as going for a walk, making cookies, or playing a round of basketball in the driveway before asking your child to discuss a problem they may be having. (Research has shown that boys, in particular, are more comfortable sharing their feelings if they are engaged in physical activity while talking.)
Suggest Deep Breathing Exercises
Encourage your child to breathe in “good” air and exhale “bad” air, and picture it carrying any worries out of their body.
Practice Yoga Together
Simple yoga poses such as downward dog, cobra, and tree are excellent for kids. Even if you do this for just a few minutes—say, in the morning before school or in the evening before bed—having a little quiet time with you can make a big difference in a child’s day.
Try Quick Stress-Relief Ideas
These can include fun activities you can enjoy together such as snuggling together with a book, giving them a massage, or playing a favorite game.
